Ten Commandments-Fourth Commandment
The 10 Commandments
This Week’s Focus: The Fourth Commandment
Honor your father and your mother.
What does this mean?
We should fear and love God so that we do not despise or anger our parents and other authorities, but honor them, serve and obey them, love and cherish them.
Honor, love and respect for parents who love, teach, and provide for their children Proverbs 23:22-25; Ephesians 6:1-4;
Respect and honor for all in authority Romans 13:1-7; Titus 3:1-2
“To the position of fatherhood and motherhood God has given special distinction above all positions that are beneath it: He does not simply command us to love our parents, but to honor them. Regarding our brothers, sisters, and neighbors in general, He commands nothing more than that we love them (Matthew 22:39; 1 John 3:14). In this way He separates and distinguishes father and mother from all other persons upon earth and places them at His side. For it is a far higher thing to honor someone than to love someone, because honor includes not only love, but also modesty, humility, and submission to a majesty hidden in them. Honor requires not only that parents be addressed kindly and with reverence, but also that, both in the heart and with the body, we demonstrate that we value them very highly, and that, next to God, we regard them as the very highest. For someone we honor from the heart we must also truly regard as high and great.” Martin Luther, The Large Catechism, Concordia, p.
· We confess that God instituted parenthood as an extension and reflection of God’s love for us.
· In particular, the task of teaching godliness to their children. They are accountable to God for this stewardship.
· We confess that children are to honor and love God by honoring and loving their parents.
· We confess that this commandment also applies to any and all in authority.
· We reject the extremes of abusive parenting and overly permissive parenting that does not reflect God’s loving relationship with us.
1. Who established family and why?
2. Where do we get our definitions of father and mother and what does that mean?
3. Why should children obey their parents and how do we communicate that to them?
4. What does this commandment say about those in authority and how does that affect what we teach children?
5. How do healthy families contribute to “that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on earth”?
“Our Father, by whose name all fatherhood is known, who dost in love proclaim each family Thine own, bless Thou all parents, guarding well, with constant love as sentinel, the homes in which Thy people dwell. O Christ, Thyself a child within an earthly home, with heart still undefiled, Thou didst to manhood come; Our children bless in every place that they may all behold Thy face, and knowing thee may grow in grace.” Amen